Frequently asked questions
For Hopeful Adoptive Parents
No. Our focus is on Domestic home studies.
We are currently offering our services to all of Pennsylvania. Please speak with a staff person to discuss your location.
A full home study is valid for three years. During that time, however, we must conduct annual visits and complete a home study update. This ensures that any changes to family situation or dynamic are discussed and do not affect the ability to place a child in your home or family.
Absolute Love Adoptions does not believe that specifying gender is ethical. We do not permit requests for the gender of the child desired.
The agency accepts personal checks, cashier’s checks and we offer a pay online feature. Please speak with your Specialist to retrieve the code to pay online should you wish to use this service.
While each county may have different requirements, it is ALA policy that pre-adoptive families renew their clearances annually.
We ask families to complete 20 hours of training before being home study approved. There is a great deal of information about adoption that will directly impact the well being of the child you adopt. We feel a solid foundation of understanding core topics in adoption is essential to the long term health of you as parents, and your adopted child. These topics include: grief and loss, adoption trauma, openness, adoptee and birth parent experiences, trauma informed parenting, ethics in adoption, transracial adoption, and more.
We work with you during the interview process to assess where your knowledge gaps are in these areas and recommend a custom curated educational program based on your needs. While some families opt for paid trainings, others complete this process with minimal additional expenses for education.
We are not a faith based agency. We work with all families regardless of their faith or religion. While we ask questions in the interviews about faith and religion, this is an effort to understand your life and family values.
We recognize that expectant parents make requests for all different kinds of families. Some are seeking very active religious families, and others are seeking a non-religious family. Therefore, we seek to approve families based on their fitness to parent an adopted child, not relative to their faith, beliefs or religious practices.
We generally feel that successful parenting of an infant is physically and emotionally demanding. Parenting is a daily and full time responsibility, and it requires energy and enthusiasm. Quantifying age does not always correspond to energy and enthusiasm, as there are many variables to consider. Therefore, we do not have an age limit.
However, we do ask families to consider their potential lifespan and the demands on an aging person for parenting a newborn. We will communicate if our assessment of your family during the interviews suggests that advancing age may be of concern to parenting a newborn.
Yes, the majority of our clients match out of state and are therefore required to pass ICPC (Interstate Compact for the Placement of Children). We are familiar with the process, and assure you our paperwork will be in compliance with ICPC requirements.
For Expectant Mothers
An expectant parent talks with the Adoption Specialist about the things that are important to them regarding the family they’d like for their child. Some expectant parents request the agency to pick a family, and want very little involvement. Others identify the race, family composition, religion, hobbies, or other characteristics of their desired family. We will work together to meet your needs regarding the things you feel are important. If the family of your reams is not available through Absolute Love, we use a large network of connections throughout the country to find the right fit for you.
We utilize our network of connections to other agencies, family profile sites and aggressive search to find the family that meets your needs.
You sure can! If you’d like to talk to the family beforehand, meet them, include them at the delivery, spend time with them, etc, that is up to you. We use the amount of contact you want with the family to help find the right family that is looking for the same level of openness and frequency of communication with you.
This also depends on what is decided in the Post Adoption Contact Agreement and is individualized based on the comfort levels of both families. You can communicate directly to one another and exchange personal information, you can go through the agency who will facilitate this arrangement for you, or you can go through an outside party to communicate. This will be discussed at length and included in your agreement.
You are not required to have your own attorney, but you are encouraged to. The agency covers the cost of any expenses related to your legal counsel. Best practice is that you at least consult with an attorney to know your rights and options, and it should be an attorney separate from the attorney the family is using.