learning about adoption
If you are pursuing adoption, you are embarking on one of the most rewarding but challenging of your life’s experiences. During the process of becoming approved to adopt, you can expect to spend substantial time reflecting on how you found yourself pursuing adoption, your hopes for your future self regarding the kind of parent you wish to be, and challenging your own understanding of adoption and it’s impact on you, an adoptee and your core group of friends and family. While you may not be required to complete education to adopt, to do so without is truly a missed opportunity for you as a potential parent and the child you wish to adopt.
We encourage you to lean into this process. Parenting a child who you come to know through adoption is NOT the same as parenting a biological child. The educational experiences captured below are designed to prepare you for the path of adoptive parenting so that you can show up as the parent your adoptee needs to develop with confidence and connection.
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Core Topics
GRIEF AND LOSS
The Adoption Connection
In this episode, we talk honestly about grief surrounding foster care and adoption through the lens of Elisabeth Kubler-Ross's Five Stages of Grief, plus an additional sixth stage.
ADOPTEES ON Podcast
Today Janet Nordine, MS, LMFT teaches us all about grief. Perhaps some of the anger you’ve been experiencing is actually masking some deep grief. We talk about disenfranchised grief and why we think it is a critical topic for adoptees to understand.
ADOPTION HISTORY
THE GIRLS WHO WENT AWAY
The astonishing untold history of the million and a half women who surrendered children for adoption due to enormous family and social pressure in the decades before Roe v. Wade.
AMERICAN BABY
A Mother, a Child, and the Secret History of Adoption: The shocking truth about postwar adoption in America, told through the bittersweet story of one teenager, the son she was forced to relinquish, and their search to find each other.
ADOPTION: THE LONG VIEW
Gabrielle Glaser is the author, most recently, of American Baby: A Mother, A Child, and the Shadow History of Adoption, which tells the shocking truth about postwar adoption in America through the bittersweet story of one teenager, the son she was forced to relinquish, and their lifelong search to find each other.
OPENNESS
Inclusive Family Support Model
This animated short video provides an easy-to-understand explanation of openness in adoption and the Inclusive Family Support Model (IFSM), the country’s first practice model specifically designed to support adoptive parents in creating a spirit of openness for the benefit of adoptees.
Adoption: The Long View Podcast
The Long View Podcast, Episode 101 In this episode, Lori Holden talks with single adoptive mom Leah Campbell about the unexpected way she became a mom to her beloved daughter, "Cheeks," now 7. Author of the just-released children's book The Story of My Open Adoption, Leah talks about the challenges of maintaining an open adoption.
ADOPTION: THE LONG VIEW
If you’ve ever wondered how you could have an open adoption when you can’t have contact with birth parents, you’ll want to make sure to catch this episode with adoptive parent counselors Katie Biron and Kara Andersen.
INSIDE MENTAL HEALTH
Is open adoption psychologically healthy for the child and adoptive parents? Dawn Friedman, an expert on adoption, breaks down the research, shares her experiences, and addresses the fears biological parents often have.
THE OPEN HEARTED WAY TO OPEN ADOPTION
Written by adoptive mom, Lori Holden, this guidebook explains what open adoption is and how to do it well.
INFANT ADOPTION GUIDE
Podcast with Tim Elder, adoptive father, in which he hosts experts in the adoption community to share stores about all things adoption.
ADOPTEE EXPERIENCE
EXPLORING ADOPTION AND IDENTITY
Host April Dinwoodie says, "As a trans-racially adopted person I think about my identity a lot; consciously and unconsciously exploring who I am in some way every day. Sometimes this exploration is light and fun, sometimes it is deep and painful, and sometimes it is somewhere in between."
AMANDA WOOLSTON, Adoptee and LCSW
Amanda maintains an excellent Instagram with consistent content about adoptive identity. You can also find her content on The Declassified Adoptee
CLOSURE
A documentary about an adoptee who finds her Birth parents.
BORN IN JUNE, RAISED IN APRIL
Ep: We're Adopted Lucky Us? A Conversation With Susan Ito. Host April Dinwoodie sits down with an amazing women, writer, editor, performer, teacher and adopted person, Susan Ito. Together they discuss the complex realities around what it means to be lucky in adoption as well as the importance of documenting narratives in adoption.
ALL YOU CAN EVER KNOW
From childhood, she heard the story of her adoption as a comforting, prepackaged myth. She believed that her biological parents had made the ultimate sacrifice in the hope of giving her a better life, that forever feeling slightly out of place was her fate as a transracial adoptee.
THE CHECKLIST
Learn about the significant of the checklist when deciding the preferences for the child you are looking for who you would be a good fit to parent.
TERATOGEN INFORMATION SPECIALIST
Asking Questions That Count When Considering Adoption by Kirstie Perrotta, MPH, a a Teratogen Information Specialist at MotherToBaby California.
TRANSRACIAL ADOPTION
CULTURAL RESOURCE MANUAL
This booklet will help you understand the importance of race and culture for your family; and share helpful hints, parenting tips and resources for you on the culturally rich journey of transracial parenting.
SURVIVING THE WHITE GAZE
Rebecca Carroll grew up the only black person in her rural New Hampshire town. Adopted at birth by artistic parents who believed in peace, love, and zero population growth, her early childhood was loving and idyllic—and yet she couldn’t articulate the deep sense of isolation she increasingly felt as she grew older.
WHAT WHITE PARENTS SHOULD KNOW ABOUT TRANSRACIAL ADOPTION
By Melissa Guida-Richards
TORI DIMARTILE
Tori DiMartile writes about what it actually takes to raise an adoptee.
EARLY RISERS PODCAST
Interview with Derek Hamer (transracial AP and Adoption Professional) and Melissa Corkum (transracial adoptee and AP).
YOU SHOULD BE GRATEFUL By Angela Tucker
An adoption expert and transracial adoptee examines the unique perspectives and challenges these adoptees have as they navigate multiple cultures.
Race Matters: Addressing Bias
An adoption expert and transracial adoptee herself examines the unique perspectives and challenges these adoptees have as they navigate multiple cultures
WHY ARE ALL THE BLACK KIDS SITTING TOGETHER
Beverly Daniel Tatum, an authority on the psychology of racism, argues that straight talk about our racial identities is essential if we are serious about enabling communication across racial and ethnic divides.
TEACHING ANTI-RACISM
This webinar highlights the NTI module on Race, Diversity and culture. Increases understanding of implicit and explicit bias,
TRAUMA INFORMED PARENTING
THE ADOPTED BABY AS A BLANK SLATE
Adoption: The Long View Podcast; 111: Lesli Johnson, MFT, explores two concepts in infant adoption: (1) the newborn as a “blank slate,” and (2) the nature vs nurture argument.
RAISING GOOD HUMANS
A kinder, more compassionate world starts with kind and compassionate kids. In Raising Good Humans, you’ll find powerful and practical strategies to break free from “reactive parenting” habits and raise kind, cooperative, and confident kids.
An absolutely essential read to enhance understanding and skills for trauma informed parenting.
UNRUFFLED
Clinical psychologist Jean Cheng joins Janet to discuss the puzzling, painful, and self-defeating feelings that our children's behaviors can bring up in us as parents.
RAISING GOOD HUMANS PODCAST
Melinda Wenner Moyer discusses her book, How to Raise Kids Who Aren't Assholes.
ATTUNEMENT IN ADOPTIVE PARENTING
Attunement in adoptive parenting is the process of intuiting in the moment what your child needs from you. The first step is to understand as best you can the perspective of an adoptee.
BIRTH PARENT EXPERIENCE
The Absolute Love Podcast shares birth parent voices. Listen to: Michelle, Lauren, Kristin, Leah, Mallory, Courtney, Jess…
TWISTED SISTERHOOD PODCAST
Guest Episode: Erika Gonzales A podcast for birth moms, by birth moms. Ashley Mitchell and Kelsey Vander Vliet Ranyard have other birth mom guests on the show to join in on the conversation.
FINDING HOPE
At twenty-one years old, Hope O Baker made one of the hardest decisions a person can make: she placed her son for adoption.
WHO AM I REALLY PODCAST
Host Damon Davis speaks with Kristen, who tells the story of giving birth, placing her daughter, then needing years to get her life back on track.
An Interview with Birth Mom
At age 18, Hannah Mongie made a heart-wrenching decision to put her baby for adoption.
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ADOPT WELL PODCAST
Ashley Mitchell talks about the grief cycle of a birth mother.
ETHICS/ADVOCACY
THE TRIAD PODCAST
I was born and adopted in the District of Columbia in 1965. I am currently an attorney and the founder of Adoptee Rights Law Center, where I represent adult adopted people on issues related to birth records, identity documents, and U.S. citizenship.
GENDER SELECTION
When prospective adoptive parents indicate that they are only interested in adopting a specific gender, some questions and concerns arise.
STRIVING TOWARDS ETHICAL ADOPTION
Looking at adoption and the ethics.
TALKING ABOUT ADOPTION
THE RIGHT WAY TO TELL YOUR CHILD'S ADOPTION STORY
How we see ourselves as adoptive parents is intricately tied with how we see our children via adoption, and ultimately how they see themselves. Seemingly heroic narratives like “saving a child” and seemingly innocuous ones like “we were meant to be together” may have unintended effects that parents don’t see on the front end -- until after damage has been done.
TALKING WITH CHILDREN ABOUT ADOPTION AT DIFFERENT AGES
This episode explores talking with children about adoption at different ages with Mari Itzkowitz, with the Center for Adoption Support and Education (CASE).
TALK TO KIDS ABOUT ANYTHING
This podcast will focus on adoption—what it is, what it isn’t and how to talk to kids about it when emotions and fear and love and hope are all wrapped up in it. Carrie Goldman, adoptive mom and writer/founder of the adoption blog, Portrait of Adoption, on How to Talk to Kids about Anything today.
PSYCHOLOGY TODAY
Children’s curiosity about their adoption story is a normal part of growing up. Open and informative discussions are crucial for the development of your child’s sense of self.
TWO FAMILY LEGACIES
One of the major developmental tasks for any child is the forming of his or her self-definition. Much of this task is done on a subconscious level and over a great deal of time.